Why True Love Should Wait

This was an article I wrote in response to all the terrible stories I've heard about teens who chose not to wait.

What should I say in light of this "sexual revolution"? What should I say as teens are out there having sex, getting pregnant, raping each other, and catching STDs? Let me tell you, it's not about protection, "safe sex" or anything else, it's about attitudes. No matter how many condoms are passed out to the public or how much money is given to sex education programs kids are still going to be getting pregnant and catching diseases as long as they can't control their hormones. It's not about programs it's about morality and ethics. It's about God's original design.

Teens think that sex is fun and that they can do whatever they want as long as it feels good, but there are many people who's lives have been ruined by giving in to their desires. How many times have girls been pressured to have sex with guys who don't care about them, how many times has a guy raped a girl but she still stays in the relationship because he says he's sorry, how many times have a girl has gotten pregnant and her boyfriend has pressured her to have and abortion, she doesn't and the guy that supposedly "loves" her leaves her with a child and no answers? We don't need this! Growing up is difficult enough already.

I propose an idea. Save sex until marriage. That it! I admit I'm not the first one to propose it, I think God had it in mind long before I did! Now you may be asking, "Why sould we do that? We love each other and want to be together forever, why wait till marriage?" I've heard a teen cousellor say that he's worked with teens who have been together for 3-5 years and when they decided to have sex their relationship ended. Both partners felt violated and hurt. They lost their self-esteem. Here's another reason to wait: Sex is emotional as well as physical. When two people have sex it's as if they're sharing a part of themselves, a very deep part. Since most teen relationships don't make it very far they have to deal with breaking up. And since they've been sexually involved they probably won't be very good friends. But that's only the beginning. Each partner has given a small part of themselves away. The whole is diminished. Now each time they've had sex with someone else they've given away more. When they're finally married they cannot give a great gift to their husband or wife, they cannot say, "I've saved myself all my life for you. You are the one I want to share myself with." Instead they have wasted their virginity on lost loves.

I'm not saying that all marriages work but that this is a better way to go about things. If your love is true it should be able to wait. True love waits, while only lust wants it right now. I've heard the account of one young lady who determined not to have sex before marriage, therefore the guys paid her no mind. She may be hurt by this but it shows that all the guys she could've had sex with only wanted her for selfish reasons, they didn't care. It shows that she is a smart young woman who wants a man that cares how she feels.

Sex is highly overrated, people think it'll be the greatest thing but they end up with broken hearts. The happiest kids I know are those who determine to not have sex until they're married. There are many people who feel bad about not waiting, but I don't know of any married people who wish they hadn't waited. Birth and disease control may protect your body but they won't protect your heart. And it seems to me that that's the most important part. Think about it.

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