My Adoption & Search Story



Hello there! My name is Mary. I was raised by great parents -- my
adoptive parents.
They did a terrific job and I love them dearly! But long ago,
my birthmother gave me a name, too -- she called me Sarah Grace. I'm 21.

Her name is Edna C--. Don't be fooled by the blanks! Unlike most adoptees,
I'm fortunate enough to have discovered my last name.
But it took a lot of research to find it! Edna, if she is alive today, is about 39.

I have her exact date of birth, and I know where she lived in 1976, the year I was born.
I even went to see that little home where she raised me for six months . . . .

My grandparents were Billie and Grace. I know their full names, too.
I also have the names of several of my grandmother's relatives.

I began my search for my birthmother in February of 1997,
armed only with some old non-identifying records
and my first and middle name.
As you can see I've found out a lot more about my roots since then!

But apparently, the information I have isn't enough.

Are you my mother? I don't know.

Mom, if I saw you walking past me on the street I wouldn't know you!
I don't have a picture. Oh, I wish I did!!!

Do you love me? Do you ever think about me?
I think you might, because you sent some of my things with me to the adoption agency,
so I would feel comfortable in my new home.
But I really need to hear it straight from your lips to be sure . . . .

Dad -- who are you? I know your family's ethnic heritage, and I know that I have your eyes.
I have Mom's hair. But I don't know your name. Do you care about me?

By law, I'm not "allowed" to have any "identifying" information about either one of you!
I was lucky to find it, although the means I used were perfectly legal.
I find it so ironic that I can go to the library and pick up a biography about any person I choose -- except ME!

Now, I'm no activist, but I feel I should be able to know who I am.

Who my mom is. If she loves me. Who my dad is.
Are they alive or dead? Do they live a mile away or a hundred?

Well, that's my story, straight from my heart.

I MISS my mom. I would like her back, please.

Do YOU know where she is?
The agency knows a lot about her, but they won't tell me!


Dear God,

Hi, it's me. Please help me find my mom. Let her know,
wherever she is right now, that I love her and just want to know her.
I want to know what it was like for her as a teenager,
what her hopes and dreams were and are.
Things every daughter should be able to ask her mom.

God, I've tried hard to find her, but I'm stuck!
I've done everything an adoptee is "supposed" to do,
I've got the lingo down
and could write a how-to book on searching.
But -- where is she??? HELP!

Thanks for listening, God.


GREAT NEWS!!! I've found my birthmother, and we're in the busy process of reuniting after all these years. Take a look at my update page soon, and I'll tell you all about it!



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